I can’t help myself. I refuse to link to this article, but here are some quotes I strongly disagree with. Outside of enraging me, this article does little but convince readers that the author, Edward Pasteck, is either a rapist or wannabe rapist.
Denying or accepting someone groping you has nothing to do with your decisiveness! Being groped does not initiate the consent decision, it was already made for you by the non-consensual grope.
“Parisian women deny or accept these advances with a decisiveness many American women lack.”
Ok first, “applauded by American men in private”? Go fuck yourself. There is a name for people who applaud getting women drunk in order to have sex with them. They’re called sex offenders and you can find a list in your neighborhood pretty easily. Secondly, impairing someone IS an assault on their right and ability to consent. That isn’t women being uptight, that is reality in the same way impairing someone is an assault on their right to drive.
“This idea of plying a woman with alcohol (something that is applauded by American men in private) often enrages American women because they view it as an assault on their right to consent.”
Except a sexual choice IS an ethical and legal choice. I get to choose who I have sex with, and if someone violates that right, it is ethically and legally wrong.
“‘Consent’ is a weighty term otherwise reserved for elevated, formal, even sanitized contexts. Using the term in regards to sex inherently ties a sexual choice to ethical and legal ones.”
BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY! What am I inferring from this? “I’m not saying women should have sex with people they don’t want to, but I’m advocating not feeling guilty when things get out of hand and the girl I got plastered at the bar is having second thoughts but I’m really into her and I think I should just go for it.” Thanks Ed, good to know where you stand on the issue of consent. I look forward to your report on prison consent policy. I’m sure you’ll be quite comfortable.
“I’m not suggesting that a woman have sex with someone she doesn’t want to, but I’m hoping we can start having more guilt-free sex by any means necessary. If we turn the volume down on consent, perhaps we’ll get closer to this kind of liberation.”
Look, I’m not saying Gawker is a whore, except it is and this is disgusting.